Stop Chasing People Who Make You Feel Unlovable

You don’t want love.

Not really.

You say you do, but what you actually crave, deep in your bones, is someone to finally make you feel enough.

Someone to silence the voice in your head that whispers, “You’re too much. You ruin everything. No one ever stays.”

So you chase.

You chase people who breadcrumb you, who withhold affection just enough to keep you anxious and starving. You chase the highs, the scraps, the almosts. You keep handing out your body, your loyalty, your time, begging them to choose you, fix you, prove that you’re not impossible to love.

And you call that love.

But love isn’t supposed to make you feel like this.

It’s not supposed to make you sick to your stomach, unable to sleep, terrified of saying the wrong thing. It’s not supposed to feel like a game you’re always losing. It’s not supposed to make you question your worth every damn day.

Let’s be honest:
You’re not in love with them.
You’re addicted to the feeling of trying to be chosen.

Because somewhere along the way, someone taught you that love has to be earned. That it only comes after sacrifice, silence, shape-shifting. That your needs are too loud. That closeness is dangerous. That being abandoned is your fault.

So now you keep choosing people who make you relive that pain, just to try to win this time.

But you never do.

You’re not healing through these relationships. You’re reopening the same wound over and over and calling it fate.

You’re not building connection. You’re building prisons inside your own mind, where their silence becomes your punishment, and their coldness becomes your fault.

And worst of all?
You keep thinking if I just love them harder, they’ll finally see me.

No, they won’t.

If someone only shows up when you’re distant, disappears when you’re close, and makes you question whether your feelings are “too much,” they are not your person. They are your pattern.

You’re not needy. You’re not broken. You’re not unlovable.

You’re just stuck in a cycle where the only thing more familiar than rejection… is begging not to be rejected again.

So stop. Please. Stop begging.

Stop rewriting texts to sound more chill.
Stop checking their story like it’s a lifeline.
Stop taking the blame just to keep the peace.
Stop calling it love when it’s just you, bleeding out to feel worthy.

You don’t need to be chosen by people who make you feel hard to love.

You need to choose yourself in the moments you’re most tempted to abandon yourself for them.

That’s where the real healing begins, not when they come back, not when they apologize, not when they finally “see your worth.”
But when you do.

When you stop trying to earn basic affection.
When you stop calling your anxiety “intuition.”
When you stop choosing pain just because it feels familiar.

You don’t need another round of heartbreak to prove you’ve had enough.

You need a new story. A new standard. A new path.

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No one is coming to save you.

But you can.

And when you do, you’ll never have to beg for love again.